Between Sex and Relationship

In my Opinion sex can change a lot of things in a relationship, it's not something to just run into full speed and just because you don't want to be a virgin any more. Before you even think about sex you should ask yourself a few questions, a few of which may be:

• Do I honestly feel connected to this person and willing to take this step in our relationship?
• Am I willing to accept the changes that will come when two people have sex, not only to myself as a person but to the relationship. Both the good and the bad.
• Am I willing to change the risk of having a kid?

The list goes on and on depending on your beliefs and the like, but you should think and sit down with your partner before even having sex and make sure that you are both ok with the risks involved and also the willingness to take the changes that comes along with sex.

Sex may be a great thing, but it also makes you extremely close with the person you have it with. You get connected in ways that you would not normally be connected to with a person. Are you willing to make that connection with another person? Are you willing to open yourself so fully and put yourself so far out there?

Great thing, it can be one of the greatest things you do. But if you jump into it to quickly you may regret it in the long run. Don't think that you won't be cool if you don't have sex. You should have sex when you and your partner are ready, not when your pressured into it.

But if you do have sex, don't be stupid, use protection. Birth control does not have the ability to stop a pregnancy one hundred percent, so it is best that even if your partner is on birth control that you use a condom as well. Also, always use a condom, not matter what the other person says. Honestly, do you want to have a kid at 14 and have to take care of the kid and have that being held over your head for the rest of your life. You honestly have the rest of your life to look forward too, don't let people push you into sex. Honestly if your still in the 14 to 19 age do you really wanna risk having a kid pop out? Do you wanna have that over your head for the rest of your life?

If you are keeping a condom in your wallet remember that it only lasts for about a few days in your wallet. Your own body heat destroys the latex and will make the condom break on you. So replace it every few days.

Also don't risk listening to rumors like pool chemicals will kill the sperm, they are all bull shit. And even if they are not, do you really wanna risk it?

Now don't get me wrong, sex can be a great thing. It can bring to people so close that they can share everything with each other. It is honestly something that can change your life forever, it will make you be so close with your partner and it's a nice feeling.

So just take a look at everything I have said here and others have said to you. Don't feel that at 18 or 19 or even 20 that you should be jumping into sex because it's what everyone is doing. Honestly if your not ready then don't do it. But if you do have sex, then please unless you want a child, use a condom.

Sex is NOT a requirement in relationships, sex is required for reproduction and such, to build a stronger family, expecting a heir of the family..but in a way, sex could be a way to represent how you feel, how much you love, how much you want to make the loved one feels good, feels excited, give surprises, keep yourselves close to each other, keep the relationship warm, show how much you need him or her... and other million reasons to mention

However, depends on how the person sees it, sex could be more than just doing it

lets take for an example, when you part with a girl, you really miss the softness of her hair, her soft skin when you touched her, her sensual voice, her nice smell....miss to hug her very much.... to hug so tightly that she could barely breathe... miss to kiss her lips, her neck, to kiss all over her..some people might understand the image of this.

And last, everybody have opinion and reason, i just share.